Renaissance Mom: Kate Oates
We are happy to bring you the next interview in our Renaissance Moms series: Kate Oates of TotToppers. Kate is a prolific knitwear designer who specializes in children’s hats. We’ve been very fortunate to have Kate as one of our designers in previous issues.
Hi Kate. Thanks so much for being a part of our interview series, Renaissance Moms. Why don’t you start by telling us how you got into crafting, and knitting in particular?
I have an aunt who knits. When we were little, during one of her visits she taught my sister how to knit and down the line I got jealous. I think I was around 12 when I told her I also wanted to learn. She taught us on circulars, and we would make “hats” just by cutting the yarn after a certain number of inches and then threading it through ALL the live stitches. No decreases. I’m pretty sure that all the way through college this is what I did. I did a few back & forth things as well, like an enormous blanket that we still have in our home! Its colorful but um…not very soft. But it was when I was pregnant with my first son that I *really* got into knitting. My aunt gave me a knitting book and I started learning actual technique. Amazing how much better things turn out once you have a little technique under your belt
How did your pattern lines, Tot Toppers and When I Grow Up come about?
Soon after my son was born, I got loads of compliments on knits he was wearing. I decided I was going to try and sell some knit baby hats. I live down South and realistically, its not the best place to succeed at a knits business, but at that time I lived in Atlanta so at least I had a big city to help me out. I came up with the name “Tot Toppers” for my etsy store. Hats I sold were of my own design and it wasn’t long before I started getting pattern requests. My very first pattern was the Chunky Striped Stocking Cap! At this time, I was actually totally unaware of Ravelry (gasp!) but I believe around the time I worked up my 3rd or 4th pattern, I signed up as a designer and things went from there for Tot Toppers. When I Grow Up is brand new, started this winter. Though I love the name Tot Toppers, its a bit exclusive of an age range so I had to come up with something else if I wanted to design for not-tots. I have had a lot of fun designing things I can wear myself.
Are you a work-at-home mom or do you have a work space out of the home? If you are a work-at-home mom, how do you juggle your work duties with your mom duties?
This is really really hard. I would call myself a work-at-home mom. I don’t have a great workspace set up because our house is very tiny. I have my stash on the wall in one place, and then a few cabinets above a computer desk which is where I do all the pattern writing, and computer work. I would really like to have a better workspace in the near future but we will see! As for balance-some days I really feel I do a terrible job. I can be quite a perfectionist so if I’m working under a deadline and something isn’t quite right, I think those days are tough on my little ones. I don’t get a lot of sleep because I try to do the intensive stuff while my kids are either napping or down for the night.
What inspires your creativity?
Its totally different every time. Sometimes its walking through the mall and seeing a garment that I think I can do better. Sometimes its a particular element that I want to fit into something. Othertimes it comes to me in a dream… (literally!) Yet another reason why I don’t sleep well…I’m always needing to get up out of bed to write something down before its gone! But what I am really really not good at is sitting down with a sketch pad and trying to come up with something out of nothing.
What do you think has been your biggest struggle as a working mom?
Probably balance. Nothing can really be 100% because the job of being a mom comes first. And no matter when I get work done, I always feel like its taking a bit away from my kids in some way. Way too often of late I’ve been feeling that I just need to get through “one more day” and then I’ll have breathing room, but days have a tendency to stretch out.
What are your goals for yourself or your business for your future?
I’d really like for more yarn stores to carry my patterns, and I definitely would like to do a book!
What other hobbies do you like to dabble in? What is your favorite way to relax?
I love to read, but I’ve fallen behind in my reading for sure. I also consider knitting-for-fun as a hobby now, because its so totally separate from “business knitting” and there is so rarely time for it! During the fall we go to a lot of Clemson football games, our alma mater! Earlier in life, I did show choir kinds of things. I’ve always thought that *if time somehow magically appeared in my lap* maybe I could try some community theater. And if my life weren’t random enough…I’ve also been a dog breeder & whelped a litter of puppies at 2AM while I was about 33 weeks pregnant. I’d like to do that again sometime too. Relaxing? What is that?
Do you have any advice to give other women that are interested in starting their own small business?
Before you even get started, set out some “small win” scenarios. It’ll take time to build your business and its nice to have things along the way that you can congratulate yourself for! Also, resist the urge to think about your actual hourly wage. Nothing good can come of this exercise.
What is your favorite game to play with your kids?
We love having dance parties. Both the boys get so into it and its hilarious. Jesse (3 years) is obsessed with the song “tik tok” but thank goodness she talks(sings?) too fast in the song for him to repeat the lyrics. They also really love to help me make cookies!
Thanks so much Kate!









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